Years ago I had a part time job as a magician’s assistant. During the final act I went into a box and was cut into three pieces. After being put back together, magically I was transformed into Wonder Woman. To say it was difficult changing clothes in a tiny box is an understatement. Especially into a Wonder Woman costume which takes every bit of extra you have from your toes up and pushes it into the bra cup. I wish I still had the after picture, but alas over the years and various moves it was lost leaving me only the before picture. It was a fun, exciting time in my life and I remember it with joy.
This month I went to the “Spa for the Soul,” and learned some of my current superpowers. They are “caretaker, alchemist, everyman and everywoman, and explorer. Before that I believed they were kindness and compassion and they are but that kindness must also be extended to me. I grew up learning it was more important to be kind than beautiful. More important to be compassionate than wealthy and I still believe these things. However now I know that if I don’t extend that same kindness and compassion to myself I am doomed.
It is vitally important to be kind and compassionate to others, it is who I am and who I wish to be. Yet if I don’t learn to give myself that same kindness and compassion then I am on the proverbial sinking airplane. You know the one that you must put the oxygen mask on yourself before you minister it to others. If you don’t take care of yourself you will not survive to help others. We all need to be cared about and respected. This month I have learned I must first respect and care about me.
It is a hard lesson for me. I have always preferred giving to receiving. I have never minded taking a back seat to someone else’s triumph. I am just insanely happy for them. Do I wish it was me? Not really, I would like my triumphs to be my own not theirs. I don’t believe in a world where someone else’s joy, happiness, or good fortune should be mine. Nor do I want to live in that type of world. We each have something different to offer even if we do the same work.
So in this month of super powers I am determined to find the Wonder Woman in me again.