Lately one of my favorite mottoes has been, “Be the person you want to become - now.” A lot times lately, when I am doing something, I stop and think, is this the person I imagine myself being in one, five, ten years from now? If not, time to step back and do a “mulligan” and act as the person I perceive myself growing into – now.
Many years ago, many of us went through periods in high school, college and beyond, where we, as women competed against each other. This competition had negative names, like “catty”, “mean girls” and “back-stabbing” associated with it. It was promoted by a stereotype that this is how females/women were. This is how women were perceived - we could not work well, when there were groups of us together.
While there are many reasons for this perception, much of it is stereotype, and as we all know that stereotype is actually a very small group representing the whole, many times in a negative fashion. The bad part is, too commonly, people believe the stereotype – except when it pertains to themselves. When it hits home, that is when we realize, stereotypes are not fair at all. Stereotypes perpetrate sexism, racism, and many other “isms” to the fullest.
This said, however, it is stereotype that inspired the founding of Women on the Verge. Oh yes, I was both a victim and a perpetrator of the high-school-mean-girl syndrome. And at the same time, I have girlfriends that I have known from high school and before that I love dearly. And what I have to say about all of this is - Gee, I think that we have grown up. Sorry if this neglects to bow to the stereotype, but we have grown past the mean-girl thing and into full-fledged sisterhood.
Basically speaking, sisterhood and true support is where we're at. We are living and breathing this sisterhood every-single-day. For example. taking this philosophy into Women on the Verge, I think how can our community become who she is meant to be – now? One way, is to continue to embrace the sisterhood that we are and aim to be. We live our tomorrow today, setting a tone of good will and cheer. Here at Women on the Verge, we promote each others goals and we are truly, truly happy for each other in our successes. This is all about becoming who we are meant to be tomorrow - today.
This snippet from our “About page says it best.:
Welcome to a different kind of community for Women on the Verge. This is the place where stereotypes are broken and we are empowered by it. Where our success is celebrated and our pain gets a hug. What you have to say matters. We hear you and support your voice.
Join us in our monthly topics. Converse, Listen, Give, Receive.
Our community is global and free.
Diversity is encouraged. The collection of our imperfections makes a beautiful whole.
This just goes to show, our intention, our aim, our objective.
Thank you for being on the Verge,
You are a great leader and a positive example for all women.
|2039 days ago|
Beautifully stated, Ana! This is a wonderful line: "The collection of our imperfections makes a beautiful whole."
|2058 days ago|
So beautifully written, Ana! I love your way to spell right out what we are, and to deconsruct those stereotypes. I contacted you, in a panic, after my last post--so scared other women would think I disrespected them as mothers because I recounted my experiences with my own Mom. You were so quick to reassure me and I thank you so much for that. Building community is a powerful thing and so special. I thank you and everyone for welcoming me.
|2062 days ago|
Sincere support is a phrase that I would attribute to this group. Well put, Ana.
|2062 days ago|
Beautifully put Ana. I like Elle have never been a joiner of groups. This is truly the first group that I have ever belonged to. It has in many ways helped me heal so many parts of myself that words cannot express the gratitude I have for you for founding it.
|2063 days ago|