Some of us struggle with forgiving ourselves for a variety of self sins. Most often these 'sins' take center stage in our individual & collective guilt when we do for our 'selfs'. Taking the time to read instead of another load, ordering pizza because we need a break, disengaging from the daily buzz and fuss by becoming silent, etc. But why do we feel so guilty, as women, for recharging our batteries, no matter with what, who, when, why or where? I don't know any men who feel guilty about recharging themselves by playing golf, fishing, playoffs, etc.
Today, women carry a far greater load on their shoulders than ever before. And because we're women, we bear these increasing loads with squared shoulders, stoic faces & a resolute will to succeed. And because we're women, we often pay the price both emotionally & physically. And because we're women, we ignore the warning signs from our body & soul with that same resolute will. Until that day, when we can do no longer. When the tears come or the silence beckons or we just don't deal because we can't.
But the guilt comes as we take a day off, an evening to ourselves, etc., & it belittles us for not being strong enough, for doing what we wanted & not what was needed. And we beat ourselves until the only salvation is we forgive ourselves. I say, to hell with that. Dictators who slaughter people for their own gain, should seek forgiveness. Men or women who abuse children & animals, should seek forgiveness. Not finishing the laundry, cooking a health happy meal every day, taking time to look after your body & soul, etc. does not qualify for seeking forgiveness.
What matters is we continue to learn from each other - our purpose, to constantly evolve ourselves individually by tapping into the collective. Not having to struggle with forgiving our 'self' would be a great goal of change for women in 2012. It's not easy but where there is a resolute will there is an equal resolute way.
bookmark_terry wrote 490 Days Ago (neutral)0Heidi, you just gave me my mantra for the entire New Year. Thanks. Take care of yourself.0 points Marta wrote 493 Days Ago (neutral)0Heidi, I really needed to hear this very much. Thank you, most of us (me included) are afraid to forgive myself mostly when I do not feel I am giving or being there enough for others.0 points Heidi wrote 493 Days Ago (neutral)0Glad to be able to give back and THANK YOU for your continued support. I look at WOTV as being my home & no matter where I end up, I will be ok as long as I can come here. And you made it possible for all of us to be at home with you.0 points AnaLewis wrote 493 Days Ago (neutral)0Oh my goodness... Heidi, I laid awake most of last night in the murkiness of beating myself up. Ugh!!! You are so right. Hell with that! You have no idea how much I needed to hear/read your words. Thank you so much. Coming out to the light... :)0 points