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Enduring the Unendurable? Here's a Hug.

Our topic this month, Strong Women Surviving Devastating Ordeals, is very important. Thankfully a good majority of us have not suffered a devastating ordeal, however, with the Inte146120_saying_good-bye.jpgrnet on 24/7, we are exposed to such events on a daily basis and sometimes it's scary as hell.

Truth is also, that what may feel devastating to one person, may not to another. In my opinion, death of a loved one is sometimes the most devastating thing to endure. And why? Because no matter how it occurs, it's FINAL. And we are left with putting the pieces together in the aftermath. Those pieces might include ourselves

Speaking to a dear friend once, we shared that we both found a little bit of humor how common it is, that after one of us endures a devastating ordeal, such as death or illness. WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY. The awkward phrases of “Everything is meant to be.” or “She's in a better place now.” or “Well, you can always have another child.” are all meant in kindness, and we really hate to witness someone in pain, so we grasp for something to say that might help. Unfortunately, this often results in a huge whale fail.

Here are a few simple phrases to say or things to do for someone who has endured the unendurable.:

  1. I am so sorry that you are going through this.

  2. I wish I had the right words to show you I care.

  3. I am here to help you in anyway I can.

  4. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  5. I have a meal in my car with your name on it.

  6. My favorite memory of your loved one is...

  7. Call and check on them.

  8. If you don't know what to say, just give them a hug. It helps.

  9. Say nothing... just be there

Our planet is fraught with so many things – miraculous, scary, funny, enlightening and yes, sometimes devastating – all of which are easier when shared with people who love us.

AnaLewis · 1839 days ago
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  •  doreenb8: 
    I love all of your suggestions Ana, especially sharing a memory and saying nothing at all.
     1831 days ago 
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Enduring the Unendurable? Here's a Hug.